He claimed I've always been selfish in bed, expecting him to do most of the work

You may find that when you start discussing the specifics of a real interaction, as opposed to a Feeld fantasy, the idea loses some of its appeal.

Dirty talk requires confidence and experience, and in their absence it is destined to sound embarrassingly unconvincing

"People are not psychic, and if you don't tell them what you want, how are they supposed to know?"

It feels a bit like the prospect of losing my virginity again

"Emotional and sexual disconnection often go hand in hand and although you are still having sex, he is withholding intimacy."

"Sexual arousal doesn't happen in a vacuum. It involves cognitive, physiological and neurological processes - all of which include and are influenced by emotion."

His explicit focus on your pleasure is an indication of ego and insecurity.

Your wife has worked very hard and I am sure she looks and feels much better, but don't assume that it will have any impact on how she sees you.

"You are married, and your mother-in-law is an adult - so sabotaging your sex life because you are afraid of how she might react is a bit bonkers."

If we don't sleep in the same bed is it the death of our sex life?

Don't restrict yourself to the bedroom, and try different times of day. They call it 'afternoon delight' for a reason

My libido ramps up in the summer but it's the opposite for my husband

"The good news is that a little imagination, secrecy and constraint can actually increase erotic intensity. Why not use the next few months as an opportunity to experiment with flirting with your husband by text?"

'When you haven't had sex for ages, getting things going again feels really odd'

"If you find it hard to relax because you worry about being late for work, plan in advance - set the alarm to wake you up a little earlier, if that's not too obvious a thing to say."

"at this age having sex can be challenging, especially if you are out of practice - if your sex drive has been off the metaphorical road for a few years, it's not surprising that you need an MoT."

Is it possible to hear 'not tonight' without feeling hurt?

"The longer you avoid sex the harder it is to get things back on track, so whether you feel like it or not, you both need to make sex the number one item on your to-do lists for once."

"A study of more than 3,000 people by Indiana University tested this theory and found that 70% of men had no problem with their female partner using a vibrator."

How do we break this vicious cycle?

He has asked me to share my fantasies, but I can't tell him about this one

"Withholding sex in a marriage is often one partner’s attempt to tell the other that something is wrong. Your wife may be feeling angry, depressed or emotionally disconnected."

"...the reality is that very few people have the same level of sexual desire at 64 as they had at 34 - obsessing over what you have lost is not a healthy way to view the world..."

I feel like he is prioritising the dog over me and it's making me resent them both

'I thought sex drive slows down a bit with age.'

"While it's lovely to have sex with someone who is always squeaky clean, that your partner can't have sex without taking a shower first suggests that there is something psychological going on."

On paper your new boyfriend is doing everything right, yet he is getting it all wrong

Most of us overestimate the amount of sex that other couples have

"...what most women want for everyday wear is a combination of comfort and adequate support, but when it comes to sex, fabric can really add to foreplay..."

The clinical term used to describe this is anorgasmia, and there are several types.

Research has fortunately identified the best way for couples to sustain their sexual relationships when they are forced to live apart

In a jokey, post-coital conversation, my husband of 15 years asked me if he was the best lover I'd ever had. I replied, "Well, there was X . . .", referring to a fling I had in my 20s. I was surprised by how much this hurt my husband's feelings

However frustrated you feel, in this instance the best way to solve your problem is to help him to solve his, and the first thing you need to do is talk to him about visiting a GP.

I don't think we realised how much we relied on a glass of wine to get us in the mood

My new boyfriend only seems to be up for sex in the morning, but it means I'm missing my exercise routine before work. Is there anything we can do to make him friskier in the evening instead?

To have great sex, you need to be able to tune in to your partner's sexual desires

I love my partner, now fiance, of four years dearly, but even thinking about having the kind of sex we used to have together feels . . . wrong. We can go weeks, sometimes longer, without having it at all.

After a long drought, scheduling sex on Sunday mornings has helped to boost our marriage. But now he'll only have sex we've planned. If I'm in the mood and initiate it at any other time he isn't interested.

My husband recently confessed to a brief fling 17 years ago, in a rocky patch before we were engaged, let alone married. He has apologised - but my libido has completely tanked.

One of the main reasons divorcees sabotage the possibility of a new sexual relationship is that they are still smarting from the pain of the end of their marriage

"The trouble is that worrying about not being able to perform increases stress levels, which increases the likelihood of failure — a self-fulfilling prophecy"

It is surprising how few men know about the importance of Kegel exercises, given the evidence supporting the positive impact they can have on sexual function has been around for years

If you make it into a big thing, you may unintentionally perpetuate the problem